Myths of Attraction

When studying the laws of attraction it is essential that we take a moment to lay to rest a number of the myths which have invaded our reality over the past several decades. In an effort to make a profit a number of retailers have developed their own ideas about precisely what leads a person to be attracted to another, a number of which are so untrue as to be ludicrous but have enough of a following to cause a great deal of discouragement to the general public. Listed below are a few of the most common “Myths of Attraction” circulating the public consciousness today.

1. You must be rich and powerful to be found attractive

2. Your body must be perfect for another person to find it attractive. As was stated in earlier articles the attraction to a physically fit body is a carryover from the animal kingdom; an individual who was physically fit would stand the best chance of survival and would give birth to strong offspring. Fortunately, since the human mind is more developed than that of the animal kingdom this is not the only consideration used when humans are choosing a mate.

3. For women, the body type typically seen only in those who are very petite or suffering from an eating disorder is the figure that they should strive to attain (at least, that is what all the manufacturers who only make clothing in the latest style in a size six or smaller seem to believe).

4. Your clothing must be of the highest caliber and carry a designer tag

5. You must possess the intelligence of Albert Einstein

6. Charm and the ability to attract a mate is inherited; however, with enough money any skill can be bought

7. Showering someone with gifts is the best way to tell them that you are interested. This will be nice for a day or two, then they will begin to wonder what it is that you want or what it is that you are not willing to give them that you are attempting to compensate for. Bestowing gifts at infrequent (but regular) intervals will ensure continued appreciation.

8. By employing certain “secrets” interested parties will come to you rather than you having to approach them. These are doomed to failure; there is no substitution for personal effort when it come to attracting a potential mate.

All of these myths are intended to bring in a profit for the companies which propagate them; therefore, they do not want you to know the truth. The secret to attracting the attention of another individual lies within you, no one else, and no amount of money is going to change that fact.

When Opposites Attract

When working with magnets you will quickly learn that polar opposites attract. This means that the negatively charged pole will be attracted to the positively charged pole and the two will connect together with very little user effort. The same rule applies in chemistry. Negatively charged particles will be attracted to positively charged particles. Why? Because the negatively charged particles have something that the positively charged particles want.

The same is true of people. Sometimes people who are very similar join together and live a happy existence; they enjoy the same music, have the same values and do the same activities on Friday nights. They have the same group of friends and attend the same church every Sunday morning.

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Choosing a Mate

In the wilds the process of choosing a mate is determined entirely by their physical properties; their strength, their courage and their ability to hunt and provide for their family. These principles still apply in many cases throughout the human world; however, since our minds are much more developed than those of our animal brethren there are other factors that should be considered.

The practice of choosing a mate based on their ability to provide for a family is an important one, and while that ability in the human world is not judged by their ability to go out and hunt wild game it is judged on their ability to meet their responsibilities. The amount of responsibility that you are looking for in a mate should be determined by your expectations for your future. If you are attempting to retire at a young age you are going to want a mate who is willing to help you work and sacrifice for that goal.

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How to Compete with the Alpha Male

Throughout nature the female of the species is attracted to the alpha male in the hope that she will be able to bear his offspring-offspring that have the best chance of survival in the cruel world they are going to be brought up in. These females are not looking for a meaningful, long term relationship; a quick interlude, then the privilege of gestation. A fortunate fact, since the alpha male often has a harem and while he protects all of them he does not give any of them his undivided attention.

All of these philosophies hold true to the human alpha male as well. While he is fiercely loyal to the people he defends and will go out of his way not to hurt them neither will he be able to give any of them his heart or the promise of a future. The woman that can pin down the alpha male is a rare specimen indeed. In the meantime, there are many other fish in the sea who are looking for something more than the alpha male has to offer, and it is this population that holds the key to defeating the alpha male’s hold on the female of their choice.

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One factor in getting work done especially in the office is creating the perfect working environment. The way the company is structured is beyond the control of the person so one should just work with what can be controlled.

The best time to do this is when one feels that the person is distracted from what is happening in the office and believes that a little change will make the work more productive.

1.  Most people have a computer on the desk. One can position it in  front of the person so distractions happening around can be ignored and people will be dissuaded from approaching one’s work area. 

2. If one’s office is in a closed space, one can put the table in front of the door so it will be easy to see if someone is coming. This can’t work if one’s table is in an open area.

3. The work area is just for that individual. If there are other things in the area that could disrupt one’s work, it is best to remove it.

4. All the papers and other essential things that a person needs must be within reach. One can get a corkboard to pin important dates on to remember, a small drawer to hold the stapler, pens and other documents, and the phone can be placed beside the computer so it can easily be answered. Other people prefer a whiteboard rather than a corkboard to jot down reminders. That choice depends on the person.  

5. Some papers or files are used more often than others. A person can make a system alphabetically, coded or even colored which will enable the person to  find it easily when needed.

6. One can request from the requisitions department an office tray for that person to have an inbox/outbox area on the table. If the office can’t provide one, then the individual will have to buy one.

7. In the office, one should mark all the important details whenever a document is received. This is part of making the working area systematic and helps the person to keep on track all the assignments that have not yet been completed.

8. Before going home for work, it is best to clean up the table of any garbage that has not been thrown. This will make it easier for the person to come back to work the next day and get the job done.

Being organized at work means a lot of things. You need to be organized with your desk, your filing cabinets and even with your computer. If you are not organized at work it does not give a good impression with your boss, your friends and your colleagues at work. It’s not really a hard task. Here are some tips to get you started.

Create a short term goal. Don’t just tell yourself that you want your workplace to be organized. It takes a lot of work and it is almost impossible to be organized that quickly. You might want to set some goals such as organizing your files in alphabetical order. This will get the job done quicker and you will have one less task to do once you’ve completed it.

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In nature the attraction between mates is determined by a philosophy of survival of the fittest. The mate that is chosen is the one that is most likely to breed strong, healthy offspring. In many animal societies the alpha male will be the only male in the pack, and it will be his job to impregnate the females in order for the species to survive.

Many of the male members of the human world look upon this strange situation with a small touch of wistfulness. What would it be like to have your own harem? What they cannot see is that the alpha male has become the alpha male not by birthright but by having proved over and over again that he is strong enough and intelligent enough to lead the pack-and to keep it. When the alpha male is challenged by another male for possession of his pack he must fight to keep it or it will be taken away from him. This is, again, to ensure that the species survives; the one who wins the right to be an alpha male is the one most likely to father strong offspring.

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The Science of Attraction

Have you ever wondered what it was that attracted a man to a woman, or vice versa? What it is about one specific individual that seems to make them irresistible to the opposite sex? Why, when everyone else is sitting home on a Friday night, they can have three dates with plans for breakfast the next morning? There are a number of different factors to be considered, but let us first take a look at the core of the situation: the science of attraction.

The central component in the selection of a mate lies in the evolutionary need to continue the species. In the wild mates that were weak and unable to stand against the elements would produce weak offspring who might not be able to survive the harsh environment they would be thrust into; that is, of course, assuming they survived to adulthood themselves. The inability of their offspring to survive would lead to the end of the species; therefore, they were rarely chosen by members of the opposite sex for reproductive purposes.

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An Introduction

Every game in life has rules. In soccer you cannot use your hands. You cannot peak at your opponent’s hand in poker. You cannot look in the dictionary when you play Scrabble. Each and every one of these rules is considered to be set in stone, yet each rule has a condition under which it may be broken.

The dating game is much the same. There are an established set of rules for capturing the attention of the person you’ve been dreaming of, and what to do with them once you have them. These rules are all iron clad, yet each has a condition under which they can be broken. Pity the man who is not familiar with the laws of attraction; a violation of these rules carries consequences of shame and loneliness. Not all of these rules are written in any resource available to the general public; some are general knowledge and some are only known by the individuals to whom they pertain. Anyone attempting to enter the scene from the outside needs to be educated on the rules of each game before they decide to throw their hat into the ring.

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